Frequently Asked Questions

IFS recognizes that our psyches are made up of different parts, sometimes called subpersonalities. You can think of them as characters or personalities inside us. Each has their own  beliefs, thoughts, likes & dislikes, feelings, memories, goals, and motivations. For example, one part of you might be trying to lose weight and another part might want to eat whatever you want. At times one part might override the other and you might find yet another part negotiating with them.

Everyone has parts like the inner critic, the scared child, the people pleaser, the angry part, as well as the loving caretaker, the organiser, the wise guide, the party-goer and the daydreamer for example.  In IFS sessions we find out more about each part in relation to a goal, issue or concern in your life.

In IFS we consciously welcome all our parts with curiosity and compassion. We seek to understand them and appreciate their efforts to help us. We don’t override them by criticising them or trying to ignore them nor do we don’t lose sight of the ways they may be causing us problems. With the support of the therapist you will develop a relationship of caring and trust with each part, learning more about how the part experiences the world, why it does what it does and its protective or positive intentions. We learn that even if a part is doing something that is causing pain, difficulty or holding us back from our dreams it is doing so for its good reason and we help this part release old burdens – unhelpful beliefs, thoughts, fears, strategies – so it can choose to function in your life in a healthy way.

We do this through holding an inner conversation with our parts and listening inwardly with compassion and care. Whenever any part is deeply heard the process of healing and growth occurs.

IFS is not so very different from a normal counselling session except that rather than trying to work things out from one perspective (for example, the you that walked into the room and said “I have a problem with…”) we take the time to listen to all other parts of you who have an interest in this problem. I support you in exploring your own psyche and getting a better understanding of yourself. At times I might point towards aspects of yourself that you do not notice or other parts which take over and run your life bearing in mind all parts are welcome in the room.

Some people find it strange to think about having inner parts or personalities. But you may notice you have different roles and ways of being in your life. You may behave in a certain way as a parent, or a son or daughter, or at your work, or when you go out with friends. It is these parts, or aspects, or sub personalities, of you that give you lots of ways of relating to the world and the situations you find yourself experiencing.

Hypnotherapy is a physically relaxed yet mentally alert state in which your conscious mind and unconscious mind become receptive to thinking about things in different ways and letting go of patterns that don’t work. You remain completely aware of what is being said and able to mentally choose the options that are the best fit for you. What hypnosis does best is amplify your abilities, including your hidden abilities, empowering you to fully utilize your natural talents and strengths.
You could say it’s a way of paying attention on multiple levels (conscious, subconscious, memories, imagination, embodied experience) to amplify and utilize your personal resources with a goal in mind. We all experience natural trances when we get lost in reading a good book or watching a movie, or we drive home and realize we cant remember the journey. Sometimes when we daydream we get into a trancelike state. And isn’t that when solutions and great ideas just pop into our minds?
  • Internal Family Systems – a psychotherapy approach in which helps you resolve internal dilemmas without making you the problem
  • Strategic & Solution-Focused Therapy – amplifying your strengths & skills with solutions in mind
  • Focusing – find our what your body knows about any given situation
  • Mindfulness & Meditation Practices – for improved self-awareness
  • Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) – identify patterns that you run so that you can amplify those that help & change those that don’t.
  • Walking, Writing & Art Therapy – when talking doesn’t quite get to the crux of the issue. To bring a different perspective.
You could say “its not you, it’s the pattern you are running!” This means that once we map your unique pattern your unique solution will emerge. For example, you may continue to live with a chronic condition that requires ongoing medical support but you will live with it in a different, more constructive way. Some clients find re-patterning changes their symptoms. Some clients find re-patterning increases their range of choices.

As well as being Clinical Hypnotherapist and NLP Practitioner, I hold a Masters Degree in Counselling and Psychotherapy. I have undertaken hundreds of hours of professional development, including specific training in Memory Reconsolidation with international experts. I have experience working with a range of clients from teens through to elders.  If I do not have the professional expertise to work with your particular issue I will let you know. Your well being is my main concern.

No. I create individually tailored recordings for each session based on where we are in the program and what you tell me about your current experience. Scripts are helpful in a general way but they do not address the memory/pattern as it was laid down in YOUR brain. The distinguishing feature of the Transformational Change process is that is attends to you and you alone.
Some clients find a single session brings about the change they are looking for. Some clients find 3-6 sessions work. It really depends on you, what is happening for you and the kind of change you are seeking.

Together we discuss your goals and create a customised Transformational Change Program for you. You will need an intake and goal setting session, then we have an agreed number of sessions working towards the outcomes you have identified. Once you have attained your goals you might book a few maintenance sessions to solidify your achievements.

Yes. Combining hypnotherapy and counseling we can unlock and resolve patterns that do not serve you or your relationship. Some patterns you have created together, some patterns you have brought into the relationship from your past, as did your partner. Generally I see couples see together in the first session so we have a chance to get to know each other, you can outline the issues that are of concern, as well as your hopes and goals (both as a couple and individually). If you decide to proceed with couples therapy I offer you a joint hypnotherapy session preparing your relationship for change. The next 2-3 sessions will be individual followed by another couple’s session to evaluate your journey and progress towards your goals.
All the processes I use are safe and evidence based practices in the fields of clinical hypnotherapy, psychotherapy, counseling and NLP. You will leave every session relaxed, alert and able to cope with driving, catching a train, going back to work or meeting friends.
Yes you can.

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